When is Old Maids Day? Always June 4!
This holiday was first made popular in the United States-
What is this Holiday about? Old Maid's Day brings awareness to those who have not yet found (and caught) their soul mates. It's a day of partying old maid style!
Dancing, mingling and eating!
How can this holiday be celebrated?
Since nobody really knows the real reason for this holiday, the public makes up the rules as they go. The more we look into this holiday the more we find that single women's parties are very popular as a way to celebrate Old Maids Day. In the past, the term "old maid" was a degrading term but in this day and time the term is used more for a laugh than anything else. On old maids day single women get together and have a good time. The party can be as a celebration of being single or the party can be a way for single guys to meet single women. It depends on which type of party your going to have.
Interesting enough, the term old maid was heavily used years ago and we think this is why many parties take on a medieval theme and dress in costumes of midevil times. Why midevil? We don't have a clue- Some parties poke fun at old maids by exaggerating what an old maid should look like. Dressing up as the OLDEST old maid of the night; still looking for her man is very popular. This is accomplished by wearing a feminine dress with boobs up high, long gray hair and wearing lots of blush on their cheeks, red lipstick on their lips and toting a basket of flowers or fruit to symbolize "they still got the goods!!"
Homemade fudge is another option for the contents of the basket because fudge is a very old recipe from way back. (The basket owner gives out the candy to the men) Fresh hot bread is another food of choice.
Many times it's a man dressed in costume to get more laughs as he walks around the party swishing his long skirt showing his knees and what's in his basket!
Are there any games played on this day?
Why yes, the card game Old Maid!
Origin of this Holiday
Our research did not find the creator, or the origin of this day. We did however find that this holiday has been celebrated for years. There is plenty of documentation to support that this holiday does indeed exist. This is referred to as a "National" day. However, we did not find any congressional records or presidential proclamations for this day. Even though, this is still a holiday to celebrate.
Having said that, some say that this holiday came about because of World War II. "After World War II many young women who put lives and relationships on hold for the war lost their chance when they lost a loved one. So communities started having dances and socials for unmarried women and returning soldiers so that they could meet someone special. It is said that "It's from this tradition that Old Maid’s Day began.""
We found recognition about this holiday from:
Calendar sites and personal Internet sites that blog and share information about this holiday.
What is an old maid? - by wikipedia
"A spinster (or old maid) is a woman or girl of marriageable age who has been unwilling or unable to marry and has no children. Socially, the term is usually applied only to women who are regarded as beyond the customary age for marriage, and is sometimes considered an insulting term, more degrading than the term "bachelor" for males. While men can continue to have children into their 70s or 80s, women generally become less and less able to bear children as they get older. So the term "old maid" is only applied to women who are past a child bearing age but have never married."
A song titled "Poor Old Maids," containing the lyrics We're all in a willing mind / if the men would be so kind / as to marry the lame and blind, poor old maids.
"Until the advent of feminism, spinsterhood was generally portrayed as a condition to be pitied or mocked."
"The stereotype of the heroic spinster left unmarried by war was generally pitied. The image of the old spinster with a fading photo of her dead World War I soldier/boyfriend on her fireplace mantel was common in films of the 1950s and 1960s. Likewise, in the American classic novel Gone with the Wind about the Civil War, numerous references are made to grieving fiancées, women who were "wanted, if not wed," and to the shortage of single, able-bodied (and thus "marriageable") men at war's end. These sympathetic portrayals of post-war spinsters masked the fact that, at least in Britain, marriage rates actually increased after the Great War compared to their pre-war levels."
"However, most stereotypes of spinsters are hostile. Other reputations are ugliness, frumpiness, depression, astringent moral virtue, and overly pious religious devotion. Spinsters have traditionally been accused of being overly fussy, of setting their standards too high — to the point of being unable to find a mate they are willing to accept. In the 19th century, "middle-class spinsters, as well as their married peers, took ideals of love and marriage very seriously, and ... spinsterhood was indeed often a consequence of their adherence to those ideals. ... They remained unmarried not because of individual shortcomings but because they didn't find the one 'who could be all things to the heart.'"
"In the 19th century, at least one editorial encouraged women to remain choosy in selecting a mate — even at the price of never marrying. An editorial in the widely popular Peterson's Magazine, titled "Honorable Often to Be an Old Maid," advised women: "Marry for a home! Marry to escape the ridicule of being called an old maid? How dare you, then, pervert the most sacred institution of the Almighty, by becoming the wife of a man for whom you can feel no emotions of love, or respect even?""
"More sympathetic, but still condescending, stereotypes of spinsters were that they were downtrodden or spineless women who were victims of an oppressive parent or who were relegated to lifetime roles as family caretaker for their family of origin, or for a married sibling's children; "poor relations" who would work "to earn their keep" as nannies or unpaid domestics."
"The strong stigma related to being a spinster has eased in modern Western civilization. Efforts of First Wave feminists such as Victoria Woodhull and her support of the free love movement in the 19th century were largely unsuccessful in improving the social standing of women who had never married."
"However, the Second Wave of feminism expanded women's acceptable and available roles, including the ability to work and keep one's earnings, to pursue a career or job beyond women's traditional spheres of childcare, teaching, and nursing, and to be able to support oneself and one's children without a legal tie to a man. In this time frame, the 1960s through roughly the late 1970s, feminist pressure also forced the elimination of the legal distinctions between a femme covert and a femme sole in most Western jurisprudence, following up on early progress made by the First Wave feminists with, e.g., passage of the Married Women's Property Act in New York in 1848 and similar acts in Britain in 1870 and 1882. As a result, the term "spinster" was no longer useful as a means of defining a particular woman's legal rights, though many institutions and statutes continued to use it until confronted with demands that they stop."
"Changing social mores in the 1960s regarding non-marital sexual relationships also abruptly changed social expectations of spinsterhood as the equivalent of lifelong virginity, and Sex and the Single Girl by Helen Gurley Brown was a record-breaking bestseller when published in 1963, and later a wildly popular film."
"The term "spinster" almost fell completely out of common use after the sexual revolution of the 1960s, being replaced by the coinage "bachelorette" or "single girl." However, both of these terms were scorned by feminists as being denigrating in their own way, the first as a diminutive of a male status, and the second for minimizing their dignity as adult women, not "girls."
"Feminism, often referred to as Women's Liberation, asserts that even heterosexual women might deliberately choose not to marry. Remaining unmarried, feminists argue, can be an empowering choice, one not necessarily linked to romantic or sexual abstinence. Some Second- and Third-wave feminists sought to reclaim the word spinster to signify their rejection of the social expectation that all women should, or at least should want to, marry. "Although the website cited below was defunct as of 2008, it accurately illustrated one aspect of this perspective from a heterosexual point of view:
Granted, most people think of a "spinster" as someone who doesn't have romantic relationships. Historically, a spinster was a woman whom love had passed by, who had never “been chosen” for marriage or motherhood. As modern spinsters, however, we do our own choosing. We embrace romance and relationship, but with a consciousness of both the joys and the costs involved. We know that it’s nice to wake up next to a warm man, but that the trade-offs are that he’ll likely leave the toilet seat up and forget to pick up his underwear. We understand that the ideal and the reality of love must be taken together, and so we feel no impetus to radically change the men we become romantically involved with. And as permanent single people, we also do not invest energy in evaluating whether men are "marriage-material." This orientation gives us a power in relationships that is (sadly) not always accessed by our married (or marriage-minded) sisters.
– Love and the Modern Spinster
"In addition to self-designated spinsters who chose to be sexually or romantically involved with men, some of the women who "reclaimed" the word "spinster" as an identity did so while celebrating other sexual orientations, including lesbian relationships and celibacy. However, whatever their orientation, most unmarried, unpartnered feminists did not, and still do not, routinely identify as spinsters, preferring more common, and less freighted, terms such as "single woman" or "unmarried woman."
See Party Planning ideas to help you celebrate this holiday!